What are the signs of an Extraverted Introvert?

“An extroverted introvert can be content in large social settings like an extrovert would be, but they also understand the value of alone-time and take advantage of it while they can.” Oh my goodness this is so me! For many years I wondered why I love my friends and being social yet I hit my max at socializing after a few hours and they want to continue for many more.

Some of my personal extraverted introvert traits.

Some people drain me others energize me: This definition came from Introvertdear.com and it is so spot on I had to share it. “People watching? Yes. Meeting new people and hearing their life stories? Fascinating. Spending almost every night hanging out with friends? Not a chance. Outgoing introverts enjoy meeting new people but can only endure so much socializing. After a busy weekend or a long day at work, you may feel the need to disappear and recharge by being alone or with just one other person.”

I always have an escape plan: I almost hate to own this one as it sounds a little mean girlish. But it’s true of me I just had no idea there were other’s that felt the same way and that I was not alone in my escape plan train of thought. And BTW it was a trait listed on every blog post I that read about extraverted introverts!

I am quiet in a crowd: Definitely! I am not someone that needs to be the center of attention, if someone else wants it fine I will just sit back and enjoy my surroundings. Now this does not mean I have no voice if I feel something needs to be said I am right there saying it but I don’t need the attention.

And traits I found listed only on one site (Diary of an Introvert) but totally resonated with me!

You’re more vulnerable than people realize.

You’re more in your head than people realize.

People think you are quiet when you are not.

You come off as flirtatious to other’s. OMG I cannot tell you how many times I have been accused of this and it was just not true.

Here are some additional common traits that I found for us extraverted introverts. Which ones apply to you?

  • You need alone time before and after socializing. …
  • You are very selective with your social calendar. …
  • You make new friendships easily, but have trouble maintaining them. …
  • You want true connection. …
  • Environment = energy. …
  • You hate small talk. …
  • Crowds are a big no. …
  • People are fascinating. …
  • You’re often mistaken for an extrovert.
  • You’re not entirely an open book

I hope that you enjoyed this post as much I did writing it. Although I have been a self proclaimed extraverted introvert for years I enjoyed the research  and the reminder that this is a real thing and our traits are very common.




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